Your health, strength, courage and will can spread healing love in this world.  Stay committed to your recovery. The world needs you.

Anxiety: How Does Self-Care Help?

Anxiety, financial crises, economic uncertainty, incurable illness, quarantine and death penetrate the bubble of safety and security now. Coronavirus, stock market plummeting, travel limited, no clear leadership, conflicting perspectives in duration and consequences.

This disruptive state is enough to trigger binge eating and anxiety attacks.

In the face of such powerful disrupters, what can we do for ourselves and others?

*pix Marilyn Monroe

Sex, Understanding, Confusion, False Messages and Eating Disorders

If you have an eating disorder, you most likely know that human sexuality is flagrantly advertised and photographed, exploited and both demonized and idealized in our culture.  Yet  your actual experience is rarely reflected back to you in ways that help you feel understood or understand yourself. Worse, the bomardment of sexual behavior and sexual etiquette definitions may overwhelm you before you can develop your own appreciation for what's important to you.

Here's an example of the pressure on you to fit into a predetermined and callous sexually desireable straightjacket.

The Days after Thanksgiving – Time for Your Real Thankfulness

In my years as a psychotherapist, I’ve been honored to work with many people who reveal and discover their true feelings during holidays. As we share and explore together, we find the core gratitude within that enhances daily life and enriches their holiday experience. Perhaps some of what we’ve found will deepen and enrich your experience too.

The Thanksgiving holiday is over. You may reflect on:

Every holiday seems to have a large food component in our culture. Fourth of July is no exception. If you have an eating disorder, the holiday may pose some challenges for you that other people don't consider.

If you recognize these challenges and confront them directly in terms of your needs and vulnerabilities, you can participate in a fun celebration while maintaining your eating disorder recovery. Fourth of July food challenges take many forms.

Dream truth begins when you make space to hear it.

Dreams as Truth-Tellers

By Joanna Poppink, MFT

Summary
Dreams as truth tellers often speak before a woman is ready to hear what rises within. When waking life feels clouded by confusion, fear, or self-doubt, dreams can offer a clear message from the unconscious. This article explores how dreams speak with symbolic accuracy and how listening to them can guide a midlife woman toward clarity, renewal, and genuine recovery. Dreams do not flatter or deceive. They show what is happening within long before conscious awareness is prepared to see it. When a woman learns to trust these inner truth-tellers, she discovers the strength already present in her psyche.

 Dreams as Truth Tellers and the Inner Messenger
When a woman is anxious, depressed, or caught in a relationship that diminishes her, she may lose confidence in what she perceives. Yet her dreams continue to speak. They carry images shaped by the unconscious, offering truth in symbolic form. These symbols can appear strange or frightening, but they do not distort. They protect. They offer time and distance so she can approach what she has not been able to face directly. Beneath these images lives meaning that can guide her toward strength and renewal.

 A Dream That Changed My Life
Decades ago, one dream marked the beginning of my own transformation. In my dream, I was adrift in a small sailboat with my husband and his friend. The sea was still. The sky was clear. Then a massive wave rose on the horizon. It grew until it filled the sky. We raised the sails and tried to flee, but the wave followed. It towered over us. I knew we would not survive. It crashed. I woke gasping, stunned by fear.

 I wrote the dream down without understanding its significance. In time, I realized the wave was not an external disaster. It was my own life force rising. It surged because my unconscious had reached the moment when the false life I had built could no longer continue. That dream shattered a structure I had lived within for years. It opened the way to leaving a destructive marriage, pursuing education, healing from bulimia, and creating a life aligned with my own truth.

 Understanding the Symbols
In my dream, I was at sea, drifting without direction. The calm water mirrored my paralysis. The coming wave symbolized the moment when denial fails and truth rises with force. The wave was not punishment. It was revelation. It was the Self demanding recognition. When the wave struck, the false life ended. The real life began.

 This is how dreams speak. They reveal buried strength. They show where a woman lives in silence, fear, or compliance. They can be fierce because truth can be fierce. Yet their fierceness is protective. It clears what no longer serves.

 Transformation Over Time
Healing did not arrive in one moment. Transformation required years of decisions that honored truth rather than habit. Looking back, I see that the wave carried the energy I needed. It pushed me toward a life where I could stand in my own authority. Dreams often work this way. The image that frightens a woman may contain the strength she needs for renewal.

 A Life Reclaimed
Today I write from a quiet room. My dogs sleep nearby. My bills are paid. My home is my own. I am free from bulimia. I have genuine friends.  My psychotherapy practice brings meaning and connection. A single dream did not build this life, but it opened the first passageway. It shattered what needed to break so I could move toward what was true.

 Listening to Your Dreams as Truth Tellers
If you live with anxiety, self-doubt, or a long struggle with an eating disorder, your dreams may be revealing truths your waking mind avoids. Symptoms offer temporary relief but block awareness. Yet suffering itself can be a signal. It pushes you to seek help. It brings you closer to the deeper intelligence moving within you. When women begin to trust their dreams as truth tellers, a new understanding emerges. What once felt overwhelming becomes the beginning of inner steadiness and strength.

 Facing the Fear of Knowing
It is not self-knowledge that hurts. It is the fear of losing defenses that once kept you safe. You may believe you are your pain. You may believe you are unworthy. Your dreams dismantle that belief. They reveal the longing and capacity that have been present within you all along. A dream can be the first step in your conscious rescue. It opens the way to living without the distortions that once defined your life.

 The Way Back to Your Inner Life
There is no formula for healing. There is only your way, shaped by the truth that rises from within. Dreams are the language of that truth. Listening to them can guide you back to yourself.

 A Simple Beginning
If you feel drawn to this work, begin with a dream journal. Each morning write down fragments, colors, and feelings before you speak to anyone. Over time patterns appear. Through these patterns the voice of your inner life becomes clear. This small ritual begins a relationship with the unconscious. Through that relationship, the path to meaning strengthens.

 Frequently Asked Questions

Why do dreams use symbols?
The unconscious speaks in metaphor. Symbols allow truth to surface gradually. They protect the dreamer from being overwhelmed.

How can I tell if a dream is important?
Dreams that evoke strong emotion often carry deep meaning. Write them down immediately. Emotion signals that something essential is rising.

What if I cannot remember my dreams?
Keep a notebook beside your bed. Record any fragment. The more attention you give dreams, the more they respond.

 Can dreams help with eating disorder recovery
Yes. Dreams reveal emotional and spiritual hunger beneath the behavior. Understanding these symbols can open the path to nourishment and freedom.

 How can I interpret my dreams without misreading them?
Begin by describing the images and atmosphere. Avoid early interpretation. Over time, themes emerge. Working with a depth-oriented therapist can help translate dream language into insight.

 Are nightmares harmful?
Nightmares are urgent messages. They appear when something vital needs attention. They often carry the energy needed to break through fear and deniial to awaken truth.

Internal Link Suggestion
For a further exploration of how the unconscious initiates healing, see The Dream That Opens the Way: Toward a Midlife Woman’s Conscious Rescue.

 Resources 

• C.G. Jung – Man and His Symbols
• Marie-Louise von Franz – Dreams
• Marion Woodman – The Pregnant Virgin
• James Hillman – The Dream and the Underworld
• Robert A. Johnson – Inner Work

Online Resources

• International Association for the Study of Dreams
• Joanna Poppink, MFT – Eating Disorder Recovery and Depth Psychotherapy

Joanna Poppink, MFT, is a depth-oriented psychotherapist specializing in midlife women’s development, eating disorder recovery, and recovery from the impacts of narcissistic abuse. She serves clients in California, Arizona, Florida, and Oregon through secure virtual sessions. For information or a consultation, write to This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it..

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Dreams play a crucial role in eating disorder recovery, offering valuable insights and opportunities for healing. Understanding the connection between them and eating disorders can aid individuals on their journey to wellness.

Five Ways Dreams Relate to Eating Disorder Recovery

1. Emotional Processing:

Dreams serve as a platform for processing complex emotions associated with eating disorders, such as anxiety, guilt, and shame. Exploring this content helps individuals work through these emotions in a safe and symbolic way, facilitating emotional healing.

Eating disorder recovery requires deep work. Suppose this treasure was your dream image. How would you understand it? Would you go surface or deep?

Dreams go deep. With understanding, you can benefit from your dream images. If you attend to your dream images and wonder about them, you have an opportunity to go more deeply into the meaning this image holds for you. This is more than an intellectual exercise.

Feelings are lost or unknown, forgotten memories and physical sensations echoing your past come into consciousness. What your eating disorder represses has an opportunity to ascend to awareness. That's when you have a genuine healing opportunity.

Your dream images can help your awareness explode like a blooming fire and lead you into recovery with newly released energy.

Dream Journal Value

Keeping a written record of your dreams is often part of eating disorder recovery work. Clients do it dutifully, resentfully, awkwardly, and enthusiastically. They forget to do it.

They can't do it because they can't remember their dreams. They are embarrassed to do it because the dreams are embarrassing. Or they refuse to do it because the dreams are frightening. Yet, any of these experiences add value to the recovery process.