- Category: Healing Resources
With or without an eating disorder, you live your life based on your agenda with your values leading the way.
However, I am not neutral. I want, with all my heart, for you to live a long healthy life. I want you to be well, to have love, joy, satisfaction, confidence and a genuine liking for yourself as you proceed onward to a feisty, interesting and healthy old age. I especially do not want you to break your own heart.
- Category: Culture and Media
- Sign the National Eating Disorders Association’s Declaration of Independence from a Weight- Obsessed World to free yourself from the three D’s: Dieting, Drive for Thinness, and Body Dissatisfaction.
- Celebrate Fearless Friday - A Day Without Dieting - and feel how empowering a diet-free day of self-acceptance can be!
- Attend a workshop, presentation, lecture, or meeting in your community that will help you feel better about yourself. See the National Eating Disorders Association’s website, your local newspaper or campus calendar for events.
- Use your voice to effect change: join the National Eating Disorders Association’s national media advocacy campaign to write letters of protest and praise to media, corporations and advertisers who promote negative or positive messages concerning body size, weight, dieting and eating disorders. Sign up via the web at www.NationalEatingDisorders.org.
- Consciously choose to avoid making comments about other people or yourself on the basis of body size or shape.
- Compliment someone else for a skill, talent, or characteristic they have that you appreciate. Remind yourself that a person’s value is not determined by their shape or size.
- Enjoy your favorite meal without feelings of guilt or anxiety over calories and fat grams.
- Donate your jeans and other old clothes that no longer fit your body comfortably to charity. Someone else will appreciate them, and you won’t have to worry about the way they fit anymore.
- Start each morning by looking in the mirror and saying something nice about yourself out loud.
- Put away or throw away your bathroom scale.
- Look through magazines and newspapers, ripping out advertisements, photos and articles that promote negative feelings about weight, body image and food. Talk back to the TV when you see or hear an ad that makes you feel dissatisfied with your body.
- Read a book that lifts your self-esteem, promotes positive body image, encourages healthy living or helps you overcome stereotypes about social standards of beauty.
- If you know someone who is struggling with an eating disorder, take the time to reassure them of your friendship and support for their recovery process.
- Throw out all of the diet products in your house.
- Remind yourself and others that It’s What’s Inside That Counts!
- Become a member of the National Eating Disorders Association and join the effort to create a world where self-esteem is not weighed in pounds on a scale. Visit www.NationalEatingDisorders.org or call (206) 382-3587 for more information.
- Challenge yourself to pick at least one of these easy-to-do tasks during each day of National Eating Disorders Awareness Week! © 2004 National Eating Disorders Association. Permission is granted to copy and reprint materials for educational purposes only. National Eating Disorders Association must be cited and web address listed. www.NationalEatingDisorders.org ???? Information and Referral Helpline: 800.931.2237
Whoops. Last night I co-hosted a wonderful dinner party in my home for the UCLA program, Dinner with 12 Strangers. Undergraduates, graduate students and alumni (that's my category) met in my home for a terrific evening. Somebody brought tall bottles of soda including a diet soda. A left over half bottle full is in my kitchen but is on its way out. These diet products do slip in, don't they? (I think "whoops" belongs on the list. We need to catch our errors of oblivion and carelessness and correct them as soon as possible. That's essential for keeping on track in eating disorder recovery.)
- Category: Self-Help
Mindfulness Unifying Exercise for Eating Disorder Recovery
*pix Natural, at ease and whole
To mend the split eating disorders create between your mind, heart, spirit and body, try this mindfulness practice.
First, for a moment, step away from appreciating your body only in terms of aesthetics relating to weight, size and shape. Give yourself an opportunity to consider your body from a new and different perspective. This exercise can open valuable communication between all aspects of yourself. The value to you is in what might be a surprising lead to your recovery.
Plan on giving yourself a half an hour or less.
- Pay attention to your breath and let your mind go quiet.
- If thoughts or judgments come in, just breathe and let them pass by.
- Bring your attention to your heart, and give yourself permission to love.
- Bring your attention to the top of your head. You now will thank your body as if you are talking a person.
Thank you, skull, for protecting my brain so I can function in this world.
Thank you, brain, for allowing me to think and intuit and for keeping my body working.
Thank you, eyes, for letting me see as much as I can of this world.
Move through your entire body, covering your neck, shoulders, arms, hands, fingers, chest, back, spine, ribs, abdomen, stomach, genitals, legs, ankles, feet, toes, Thank each part of your body for the work it does, and be specific about recognizing that work.
Thank you, muscles, for allowing me to move.
Thank you muscles, for allowing me to lift my child or cuddle with my cat or embrace my friend or brush my teeth.
If you do this exercise on a regular basis you will develop the ability to go deeper. You will be able to mindfully thank specific organs, veins and systems. For example, you could thank your immune system for protecting you. You could thank your body for its mysterious and wonderful ability to heal. You could thank your skin, the largest organ of all, for protecting you and providing you with sensations that warn you, bring you pleasure and connect you to other people.
When you are ready, you could thank specific areas of your body for tolerating and forgiving the assaults of your eating disorder. You could thank your body for always doing its best to recover, heal and provide you with the best home possible in this world.
Pay attention to how your body feels as you express your appreciation.
If you continue to do this exercise, over time you might feel that you want to do more than say thank you. You might want to help your body with love and kindness to carry on all the tasks that allow you to live in this world. This exercise has little or nothing to do with weight or physical beauty. It has everything to do with appreciation, health and love. It can help you evolve to freedom.
You may experience powerful feelings when you start this mindfulness exercise.
- You can journal your responses.
- You can share them in the comments.
- You can share them in your support group.
- You can share them with your psychotherapist so you can work together to support your integration.
Which options are best for you?
Joanna Poppink, MFT, Los Angeles eating disorder recovery psychotherapist
*pix by Andrey Belloly, Russian, 19th century painting of sitting woman. This work is in the public domain in its country of origin and other countries and areas where the copyright term is the author's life plus 100 years or less.
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