You raise the healing consideration immediately! If you are living in the thick of an eating disorder, you will not be comfortable in a socially acceptable eating situation. Your challenge is to face those uncomfortable feelings. When you stretch yourself to tolerate whatever you feel for as long as you can while you are in a "normal" eating situation you are moving against the rules of your eating disorder. You strengthen your ability to live a normal life. Just a little bit at a time is fine. If the people in your life work to make you "comfortable" that means they will be catering to your eating disorder. Commenting on what you eat is intrusive. But including you in normal events and expecting you to behave in a socially acceptable and gracious way shows their respect for you. It also gives you an opportunity to rise to the occasion.