Dear Kym, Please put those niceties in your life now. When they are routine you'll notice when you are letting them go --- and that's the signal to attend. Favorite book by your bed; Clean hair brush; Made bed; Clean sink - bathroom and kitchen; Comfortable slippers; Fresh flowers or flower or leaf arrangement; somehowhere to cheer you; Mindfulness practice - could be short but routine What might be on your list of nicetiess? Private moment with your hand bells? :)