Welcome to Joanna Poppink’s Healing Library for Midlife Women
Psychotherapy insights, tools, and support for your journey
Doors can open for you if you knock or simply turn the handle.
Here you can find articles that may answer your questions and support you in your personal recovery work.
You'll also find a series of inspirations and affirmation that may help you stay on your healing path.
Please remember, helping yourself does not mean going it alone. Helping yourself means discovering what what you can do to support your own recovery. That includes how to recognize opportunity and reach out for what supports your health and personal development.
When you help yourself you are looking to people as well as books, websites and classes, who are in a position to offer you genuine recovery help on your journey to healing.
Open new doors to find your recovery path.
(Response to Am I a Binge Eater? Part I)
Good for you for writing. The first steps toward reaching out for help are the toughest. You are changing a pattern and taking what feels like a risk just by writing your fears to a person who has information about your concerns.
You, like so many people, don't recognize for a long time that you suffer from an eating disorder.
Excerpt from Chapter One of Healing Your Hungry Heart: recovering from your eating disorder
Self-help means helping yourself. It doesn't mean rejecting help from others. It means finding and using a myriad of ways to bring genuine help into your life.
Crises That Trigger Binges and Binge-Purge Episodes: The critical incident that triggers binge behavior may be an event in life, the threat of an event in life, or a vivid thought or feeling that may or may not relate to reality. It feels so personal it reaches the emotional depths of you.
When you believe you are in an unstable and precarious situation that threatens your sense of security, you can feel that your very self is about to be obliterated. That particular internal experience ignites the binge or binge-purge episode.
Changing Nature of the Eating Disorder Episode: Once you are in an obsessive-compulsive episode, the actual and emotional experiences change form. The binge or binge/purge experience blocks your horrific feelings.
It grounds your body so you feel more solid or gives you a sense of holding on to something that won’t go away. It also numbs your ability to think outside the binge. Your thinking stays rigid and only permits rethinking your catastrophic thoughts and how to continue your binge or binge-purge behavior.
As the episode continues, you feel a strong sense of shame and despair. Physical pain enters the experiences, and once again, you feel a tremendous fear of annihilation.
End of Episode: If you are a compulsive binge eater, you will eat till you pass out. If you are bulimic, you will binge and move into a purging episode, perhaps many binge-purge episodes. You try to flee your experience by vomiting the contents of your binge.
No escape exists. The end of the episode comes with physical exhaustion. You remain with the shame and fear.
Why? What is the crisis experience that pushes a person with an eating disorder into such drastic behavior? Where does this overwhelming sense of annihilation come from? Why are drastic eating disorder episodes required to restore equilibrium? Why are you willing to pay such a price? Or are you willing? Do you have a choice?
More to Come I’ll be exploring these questions around crises, what they are, how they are perceived, how and why a person with an eating disorder responds and what a person can do to respond with more health and skill in this six-part post, “Eating Disorder Response to Crisis.”
To find your psychotherapist, see
Academy for Eating Disorders (AED)
International Association of Eating Disorders Professionals (iaedp)
Good luck! I wish you a successful recovery journey and a rich rebuilding of your inner core.
Eating Disorders: Response to Crisis
Response to Crisis: Part I of VI - How to Heal From Binge Purge
Response to Crisis: Part II of VI
Response to Crisis: Part III of VI
Response to Crisis: Part IV of VI
Response to Crisis: Part V of VI
Response to Crisis: Part VI of VI
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Written by Joanna Poppink, MFT. Joanna is a psychotherapist in private practice specializing in eating disorder recovery, stress, PTSD, and adult development.
She is licensed in CA, AZ, OR, and FL. Author of the Book: Healing Your Hungry Heart: Recovering from Your Eating Disorder
Appointments are virtual.
For a free telephone consultation, e-mail her at
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