Wonderful information, Shh. Your wisdom and knowledge is hard won. So much pain, fear and misery in these stories. Yet, at the same time, these stories, lived and shared, help you and others find a more sturdy and healthy way to live and make better decisions. If you think of more, please bring it on. An near impossible question I have relates to women who have been raped and don't know it. They may accept the one time event as the normal way that person has sex. Sometimes women are married for years and don't realize that sex with their husband is rape every time. Sometimes group "play" in a hot tub turns into a rape she doesn't recognize by name. Shame can really cloud perceptions and appreciation of a woman's genuine experience.