Different reasons Tracy...the first time was his temper, and he did have lots of therapy and has done quite a good job of dealing with that, and earned his way back. This time around it's more complicated, and it's not that I don't love him and wouldn't have him back, or that he's not sorry - but too many things now - too many times he has let me down or broken my trust, so I don't really have a lot of choice, other than accept that he can't respect boundaries, and as he said himself, he would like to try to make everything okay, but he acknowledges that he seems completely unable to respect boundaries, and a lot of the time it's not even on a conscious level, he doesn't do it deliberately...so inevitably it will happen again. I have to do it because I need to look after myself and the girls. I'm not in a very good state emotionally this morning...but I still know it's the right thing to do. If he wasn't such a nice person it would be easier, but I'm glad he's a nice person because it means we can keep things amicable and good for the girls.