This is a great time to check in on yourself and expand your frame of mind. Compare what you are thinking about now to what you genuinely care about and see if your eating disorder feelings are leading you astray. This could be the time to find your true course.
Ah, Christmas.... a time of expectation, hope, fear and despair. A festival of lights couldn't be possible without the dark. We need both for Christmas. We can get emotionally caught in too much bright light and eat, drink, spend, give and take too much, do too much. We can ge caught in the darkness and self criticize, feel ashamed, let ourselves be attacked, smothered, ignored, isolate and despair.
If you have lost your balance, are eating too much or not enough, struggling to keep family and friends from overwhelming you with their expectations and demands (benign or not), feeling deficient or ashamed or guilty in any way, or feeling high and entitled to more attention and more "stuff" finding your equilibrium again can be a challenge.
You might believe that your feelings while in this disequilibrium state are permanent. You might believe you are condemned to feel your painful feelings forever. Or you might believe you must live a life of struggle as you strive to live up to vast and all encompassing new tasks you've designed for yourself.
Finding or creating healthy balance in your life or restoring healthy balance after you've lost it requires that you use both your intellect and your feelings as your guide. Many ways exist to help you do this. Maybe we can talk about them in future articles and comment sections. Today I want to talk about one.
The guide comes in the form of a question. Ask yourself, "What do I want to do before I die?"
How you answer this question can clarify your goals, set your priorities, rearrange your thinking,
clarify your feelings and organize your behavior. Your answer to this question can lift you up and over eating disorder thoughts and feelings. It can move you beyond irrelevant wishes about weight, eating, other people's behavior, self criticism and over indulgence.
What do you want to do before you die, really? What follows after you answer that question is your beginnning awareness of the steps you need to take now to make your goal happen. How you direct your energy, how you spend money, how you care for yourself and others and so much more is affected when you bring your answer into your consciousness.
Before I die I want to:
- Dance at my granddaughter's wedding
- Stand on top of a mountain
- Write a book
- Take a cruise through the Mediterranean
- Ride the orient express
- Pilot a helicopter
- Get a college degree
- Spend a month on a Greek island
- See my photography in Vogue or the Atlantic Monthly or New York Times
- Be in a movie with Brad Pitt
- Run my own business
- Be free of hate and anger toward......
- Share as much laughter and joy with my children as possible
- Ride a horse well
- Be invited to the White House
- Climb the pyramids
- Help save my neighborhood
- Teach in schools
- Hold a political office
- Sail to Hawaii
Please add yours to the list. How do you change your life if you honor your heart's desire? It's not negative to think about your death. It's clarifying. You don't have endless time. Make the time you have count.
- How do you use the time you have to get the most value?
- How can your goal become your guide to action?
- What and who do you need to place in your life now to honor your goal?
- What and who do you need to eliminate to honor your goal?
- What steps can you take right now to get started?
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