Slippery Slope: Stay in eating disorder recovery
- Category: Symptoms
Do you recognize the two main influences that propel you to the slippery slope that undermines your eating disorder recovery?
1. Anyone who supports your symptoms rather than your recovery. Be wary and alert when someone enourages you to starve or invites you to join them in a binge.
2. Eating disorders distort your thinking and your perceptions. Under the incfluence of that distortion you can rationalize and justify eating disorders behaviors.
A vital part of your ongoing recovery work is to continually reality check so you can counter what supports your eating disorder.
Catch yourself if you feel the urge to use name calling or attempts to denigrate and humiliate others in order to fee good about your eating disorder choices. Those urges come from a defensive stance that seeks to elevate an individual to a superior position. From that position of felt superiority the person feels safe, far removed personal pain, fear and humiliation.
Seeking protection from an elevated place is natural, much like seeking high ground during a flood. But it doesn't constitute healing. It might demonstrates quick wittedness and the ability to move fast in order to escape painful reality.A vulnerable time in recovery is when you use your fine mind to trick yourself. You convince yourself that you are fine when you defy health supporting behaviors that have helped you on your recovery path.
You might convince yourself that you are healthy enough or strong enough to:
- stop journalling
- eat trigger foods
- deny yourself adequate sleep
- cancel psychotherapy appointments
- criticize people who continue to use healing tools
- spend time with people who act out their eating disorders or addictions.
Undermining your recovery in these ways is an inevitable stage in recovery work. Hopefully you won't stray too on the slipperly slope, and you will stop before you slide to the bottom.
Placing people in your life, like your therapist or a support group, who will call you on your shift can help you grow and heal your way back to your recovery. Picking up your discarded healing routines, like journalling, can bring you to a more balanced viewpoint. You can develop a sense of kindness toward yourself and others that creates respect and health.
Recovery means restoring, or establishing for the first time, a healthy way of living. This includes self understanding, understanding and respect for others. means developing compassion and finding peaceful solutions internally and with other people to resolve stress and conflict.
This can't be done in isolation based solely on your own feelings, thoughts and experience. The human world is much bigger than that. You can fool yourself into believing you are drawing on a broader experience than your own if you only listen to people who agree with you.
If you recognize that slippery slope within you and in the voices you hear and read from other people, you can be more secure on your path to eating disorder recovery or recovery from any debilitating self inflicted condition.
- What's your experience with the slippery slope?
- Have you believed people who seemed to look good to you while they encouraged your eating disorder life?
- Have you slipped down that slope?
- How did you grab hold and come back up to your recovery work?
- What advice do you have for someone who is sliding off their recovery path?