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Enough is Enough

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vangogh600px-Ernte in der ProvénceTake heart. You may be stuck in the routine of doing a job that is done. If so, it's time for you to say, "Enough is enough," and move to what's next in your life. *


If you struggle against oppression, especially if it comes from within, like the oppression of an eating disorder, you can exhaust yourself and feel sad, stuck, even hopeless and despairing.  You tell yourself, "nothing I say or do helps or works or gets me beyond this miserable place."  Maybe the hay is harvested, and you need to explore what your needs are now.  Doing what you did to satisfy old needs may have worked. Now that those needs are satisfied, new needs emerge. The old routines that led you to success don't apply to your goals now. You may not even know what your goals are. 

At this juncture you know that what you are doing doesn't create the life you want. This is good knowledge to have.  If you're sure the path you're on is headed the wrong way for you there's no point in continuing in that direction.  It's time to change course or introduce a new complication in your life that will force you to change course.  

This does not mean you've done anything wrong.  The path you've taken might be right for someone else.  Or it may have been right for you in the past, even the recent past.  Now your pep talks don't help you. Your fall back guides seem meaningless. You are frustrated and can't seem to develop enough momentum to:

  • meet with people
  • limit or increase your exercise
  • read
  • control your temper or your tears
  • be productive in your projects
  • gain or lose weight
  • stop negative thinking
  • keep up with the news
  • get out of bed in the morning
  • stay on your food plan


If everything you are doing in your life results in your being in this condition, then you've got a clear signal that you are off course.


By off course, I mean that you are not letting the goals and desires of your authentic self lead you.  You are going the wrong way for you, and you don't know the right way. Your frustration is getting profound and leading to near or actual depression. Your eating disorder symptoms are probably more intense too.

This is the time to admit that you need something different (and healthy) to shake up your system. You need to move in a different direction and accommodate to a new routine that direction demands.

Even if you don't know what you want, if you disrupt a rigid and non working system you give yourself opportunity to discover and develop new interests and skills. What emerges in you from the disruption takes you away from your boring and mind numbing old ways that trapped you into a dead end.

Sometimes we call what we need inspiration. So we wait for it or look for it.  What we need is inspiration with a push. :) That comes from giving ourselves a new and impossible to avoid component to our lives.

You choose what is a daring move for you that is compatible with your deep values.  Here are some examples.  Please add more to this list.

Once a week:
  • walk someone's dog
  • pick up a shut in's groceries
  • read to children at the library
  • take a class in a subject you like but never studied
  • volunteer and actively participate in an organization that is dedicated to something you care about. (e.g. politics, environment, health, child, women, men, parent, student, teacher issues)
  • visit and read to a shut in neighbor
Or bigger changes:
  • apply for a new job
  • enroll in a certificate or degree granting program
  • rescue and take in an animal
  • adopt a child
  • begin a major project with your spouse or partner
  • begin a new relationship
  • commit to a current relationship

These suggestions are not to make changes in your life simply for the sake of change.  You are getting off a road that leads to a dead end. 
You are creating new roads that lead to unexpected destinations. Along the way parts of your mind, heart, body and soul that have been
numbed from neglect and time in prison will awaken.  You'll feel alive again and on your right road.

What is a change you can make that will disrupt your dead end road and give you a chance to feel alive again?


* Ernte in der Provence, painted by Vincent van Gogh. (Wikimedia Commons)









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mylifex2
0 # OMG...I just wrote something on the wildmylifex2 2012-09-01 13:52
OMG...I just wrote something on the wild feelings part II blog earlier today...it totally goes with this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!....so I won't rewrite it...this is such coincidence.
pinkjoanna
0 # Hi tracy, It's wonderful when those cpinkjoanna 2012-09-01 20:26
Hi tracy,

It's wonderful when those connections happen. Thank you for telling me!

As you see, I figured out how to get a picture up with my post.

But....now some new glitches appear. More learning ahead. :-)
KymL
0 # It's interesting that I just read an artKymL 2012-09-02 08:06
It's interesting that I just read an article for the TIMES about this generation of women's midlife crisis and how it's no longer a "crisis" but rather a time to rebirth and rebuild ourselves. This blogs seems to run along those same lines.....we figure out that what we're doing or where we are, isn't working for us and we change our coarse.

I've had big "enough is enough" moments such as the one that brought me to treatment, but it seems I have little ones just about every day. Maybe it's the "rebuilding" of myself and of my life. It's been fun noticing that something doesn't feel right (couldn't do that when I was numbing out), identifying it and then exploring what I can do to change it. Maybe that's why life seems so exciting to me lately!
mylifex2
0 # meeting my needs, changing routines..mylifex2 2012-09-05 20:04

meeting my needs, changing routines....moving in a different direction....I am happy to say that FINALLY, my new meds are working, my mind is clearing, my depression and anxiety is lifting.  SADLY, I have gained a ton of weight over the past 8 months experimenting with meds and I am in a quandry trying to figure out how to get rid of it safely, and without being harsh and demanding on myself. 


That being said, I am trying something new. I went to my boss today and really opened up and poured out my heart over my job stress and anxiety...how I feel "frozen" at work and non-productive. She was very understanding.  (whew!)....we have come up with a plan for me to work my days guided by how I feel. I may work 6 hours, I may work 8.  She offered to give me a few weeks off which, unfortunately, I cannot afford right now. 


It felt good to be able to speak with her frankly and to get from her what I needed, and still keep my job.  Knowing that I am not having to dedicate myself to 8 hours a day reduces my anxiety quite a bit.


I don't think this will be the job for me in the long run. I am working on a book project (a series of children's books), and I hope to turn the direction of my career path 180 degrees. 


I want to say that this has been my favorite blog, Joanna. It really spoke to me in ways that I needed to be spoken to.


I want to get off my dead end street...my emotional dead end street, and my career dead end street!


Tracy

Treya
0 # Kym, your days seem full of new awakeTreya 2012-09-05 21:44

Kym, your days seem full of new awakenings now.  I'm so glad to hear about your experiences in recovery.  I can feel joy come through your words.


Tracy, speaking up is definitely a change your course move, especially to your boss. You spoke your truth, and it can't be unsaid.  So something will change and will not go back to the way things were.


This is the push I meant that is behind the inspiration. You set something based on your true values in motion.  Hooray!



I'm also encouraged by both your responses to speak (write) more plainly. I'm just crossing the edge of a boundary into writing a new book. Feels like more courage is required this time.


 

susie user
0 # Thankssusie user 2012-09-08 15:11

... interesting comments!

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