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Psychotherapy and eating disorder recovery work take many forms. In this extensive grouping you'll find articles, links and discussions that include stories of individuals working through their healing process and descriptions of different treatment approaches.  Issues include trust, bingeing, starving, sexuality, fear, anxiety, triumphs, abuse, shame, dream work, journal keeping and more. Discussions regarding insurance and finances are here as well.  Reading these articles and participating in discussions will give you deep and varied windows into eating disorder recovery treatment.

Eating Disorder Recovery and Issues of Abandonment

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"I feel like I'm being abandoned by [my therapist].  This is what I don't get.  She obviously thinks I'm not doing well at all and need more help, or something.  So why, when someone is "not well"  (her words, not mine) would you, a T, stop working with the person?  If you're in the field to help people, why would you abandon them when they apparently need you the most?  This is what I don't get.  It's like, "You're doing badly so I can't work with you anymore."  She didn't say that, but that's what it's like.  Does that make sense?  Also, if she knows that things we'll just get worse without her, why would she fire me?  These people are supposed to be helping people, not letting them go when things go a little south."

As a psychotherapist working with people with eating disorders, here is how I answer her question.

Adult Women with Eating Disorders: Going for Happiness

In the midst of your efforts to heal from your eating disorder I ask you to take a few moments and answer this question:  What is happiness to you?

happiness_images Years ago I worked with a woman in my practice, 38 years old, struggling with binge eating and purging, married to an emotionally abusive man, mother of two small children.  After a year of being in psychotherapy with me she said, since she had stopped purging she intended to stop her therapy.  She wasn't in pain anymore.

I asked her, "Is absence of pain enough?" 

Fiery Passions and Lessons from Our Sun

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This new NASA image of our sun is like an inspirational mandala, particularly designed for you to help you in healing from your eating disorder. It shows us the fiery wonder of our personal star.

It's a mass of seething explosions, yet it holds its shape and position in space.  It consists of powerful forces that could destroy anything of mere human creation yet is the source of life for all of us on this planet.

You also contain inner seething fires.  If you have an eating disorder you

Ignorance is dangerous. Learn about your eating disorder.

candle Sveca u mraku*pix A little light can reveal the direction that leads you out of darkness.

A young woman told me she was binging and purging every day and didn't know why. When I suggested she get professional help she said she saw a psychotherapist twice and it did no good. The man told her to eat “good” food so she won't want to purge. He said the solution to her problem was “that easy” and that she was stupid to purge everything she ate.


The result of that encounter is that she's still terrified about her inability to stop bingeing and purging. In addition she feels stupid, incompetent, lost and confused.

She needs accurate information so she can reject false information and critical attitudes like what she received from the ignorant and, to my way of thinking, callous psychotherapist she encountered.

In this age of Google you can look up just about anything, but the sites you find may be inaccurate, disheartening and even dangerous. I looked up "throw up" and "make myself throw up." I found hundreds of thousands of sites that were pro ana, pro mia and instructional about how to self induce vomiting.

So she needs a few words to help her find helpful information. Eating disorders, bulimia, anorexia, binge eating, BEDA are search times more likely to lead to helpful information.

Hopefully she will find a site or a person who tells her:

1. Bingeing and purging are symptoms of an eating disorder named bulimia. Without treatment it will get worse. It's an illness, not a character flaw. You need a mental health professional who understands and has specific experience with eating disorders.

2. People, including health professionals, who lack knowledge about eating disorders, binge/purge behavior doesn't make sense. Such people think, “You eat because your body needs nourishment. Why would you throw up? Just stop it."

3. When you suffer from bulimia you throw up for reasons. You don't know or understand what those reasons may be. The only way you can explain them is by saying, “I can't stop myself." "I don't want to stop." "I promise myself that I will stop." "This is the last time I will ever do this."

4. To a mental health professional who understands eating disorders these binge/purge behaviors do make sense. You are not eating because you hungry. In fact, when you know you are hungry and eat for that reason it's a developmental milestone on your recovery journey.

5. Sometimes you eat just so you can throw up. You can feel soothed by the binge until it hurts too much so you throw up so you can binge again. But some people need to binge so they can throw up because it's the throwing up that brings some relief from anxiety.

6. Bulimia and anorexia are illnesses. You don't recover through will power just as you don't recover from pneumonia through will power. You need caring and appropriate healing work with a professional who knows about eating disorders and who respects you and what you are going through.

7. Developing a solid, trusting, mutually appreciating relationship with a knowledgeable, respectul and experienced psychotherapist is crucial in moving toward recovery. Recovery is not about will power. You need healing. You need treatment. You need understanding and respect for your situation. You need to know you have an illness and that, with the right help, you can get better.

8. If you are young and living with your parents or financially dependent on them because you are in school or in an early career stage, you need to tell them what is going on witJh you. You need to let them help you get the treatment you need.

Ignorant people are in the world. Self destructive people are in the world. Suffering people who want company in their suffering are in the world. When you know you have an eating disorder you can reject criticism. You can reject invitations to "do your eating disorder better." You can know enough to recognize negativity and ignorance and can move in the direction of your healing.

Joanna Poppink, MFT, Los Angeles eating disorder recovery psychotherapist



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