Eating Disorders and Coping with Feelings after New Years
- Category: Psychotherapy and Recovery Work
Emotional challenges as holidays endIf you have or had an eating disorder, January can be difficult emotional territory. The promises of the new year, the activities of the holidays fade. The days are the usual Monday through Friday with a week-end attached, just like before.
The hope for sudden and lasting change fragments. If you were happy during the holidays you hoped it would set a new trend for your everyday life. If you were sad and lonely during the holidays you hoped that you would start a new way of living that would bring in more friendship and community.
The holidays end. The vastness of your normal world surrounds you. And it's still January, just a few days, really, from the holiday bump on your schedule.
Your challenge is to realize that the outside events of the season do not bring changes to your life. The inside events in your heart and soul, in your mind and perspective can and often do bring changes to your life. The engine that starts the change is within.
Getting into commited psychotherapy to find and travel your eating disorder path will bring you positive changes, eventually. This doesn't happen right away, but it happens.
To prepare yourself for your healing journey I recommend that you read or re-read Joseph Campbell's Hero with a Thousand Faces. This is the classic that can guide your through your journey to eating disorder recovery and a better life.
Even if you don't see the relevance, your unconscious will gladly take in the healthy nourishment Campbell has to offer. I met Joe many years ago at an imagery conference at UCLA. We met in a big hall outside the workshops. Many of the speakers and workshops were good, but at that moment I was fleeing a bad presentation.
Joe also was in flight from something he couldn't bear as well. We sat on a step at the bottom of the staircase and talked for well over an hour.
The energy, honesty, humanity and richness of the man came through so well I can feel him today. He also had a twinkle in his eye for attractive young women which I enjoyed. After all, he was a most popular professor at Sarah Lawrence for many years.
His many books came later. His influence on the creation of Star Wars came later yet.
But give yourself a gift and a boost into healing by reading his first book, the book he wrote when he was a young man starting his own journey. Enjoy. Campbell's book is a nourishing treat for getting through this month (and any month) well.
You may discover how you already are the heroine of your life.