Days After Christmas -Part II Christmas alone
- Category: Holidays and Special Occasions
How was your day after Christmas? The day after Christmas can feel like gravity changed on the planet. We can feel as if we moved through some kind of science fiction doorway to a strange world where everything looks familiar but feels alien. We feel real in an unreal world or unreal in a real world. If you had a satisfying day, even if unconventional, that enriched you and enriched others in some way, this day after Christmas can feel like a day of new hope and strength. Your new and good feeling may or may not last, but if it happens once it can happen again. You get a window into a kind of pleasant and sturdy but new state of aliveness that could be yours more often. If you had an unsatisfying day with disappointments, unfulfilled expectations, fear, isolation and a sense of great deprivation you may feel relieved the day after because Christmas is over. Yet you may also feel terrible about yourself and accuse yourself of being unworthy and undeserving of love and the warmth of friends and human companionship.
Grounding is a way to care for yourself If you feel good, ground that good feeling in positive action. Create something while you are in the feeling. Yes, you could write or paint or sculpt or compose a song. You can also write letters or e-mails to people you care about, to people you would like to know better, to people you appreciate but never told you appreciated. You can start a project you’ve meant to begin but kept postponing. You can make phone calls and make plans with people for the near future including today. If you do such things while you are in your good feeling, you will ground that feeling in you and let it flow into the world at the same time. Benefits will come to you in surprising ways that will lessen your need for your eating disorder. If you feel bad, your goal is to bring yourself into a healthy alignment with your environment. You are out of balance and believe lies you tell yourself about yourself. You may feel that there'is little or nothing to hold on to or call to bring you into a less painful place. To come to a good place may be unimaginable in your present state. So you need to ground yourself. You need to break up the awful fantasies that flood your mind and drain your energy by bringing yourself to a solid place here in the world.
Get into your body That starts with getting into your body. Breathe and watch your breath. Follow your breath with your mind as your breath moves through your lungs and your cells bringing much needed oxygen and life force to your body. Move. If you have a practice like yoga or dance or sport exercise, do it. If not, simply move. Get out of bed or off the chair. Walk. Walk around your home or in your neighborhood or in a park or on the beach or through a museum. Get your body moving. And keep watching your breath. Pay attention to what your body notices. By this I mean, notice the different feelings coming through the bottom of your feet as you walk on different kinds of ground. Pay attention to your skin as you feel the different temperatures and textures of the air. Pay attention to your ears and eyes and what you hear and see in the world around you. The days right after Christmas are unwritten, uncelebrated, uncategorized. They could be like a blank page or blank canvas where you can get yourself grounded and give yourself a new start in a new way. You could begin a life where your eating disorder played only a bit part that was about to be written out of the play completely.