For Moms in Recovery at Christmas: "You Are the Gift"
- Category: Holidays and Special Occasions
Mothers working toward eating disorder recovery, increasing your self esteem and appreciating your self worth enriches your child's Christmas. My guest blogger and fellow Conari Press Author, Barbara Joy, tells you how.
Presents or Presence…Which Do Your Children Really Want?
The holidays are once again here. The kids are a year older and most likely there are already too many piles of toys, gadgets and games lying around the house from this past year. Parents often find themselves buying a present here and there as you plan for the holidays. The days in December are quickly passing. You’re busier and busier with the many commitments, festivities and planning of the holiday.
You anticipate how much your children are going to love their presents; how happy they are going to be! Ironically, many times as the holidays grow nearer, the stress builds. You notice more misbehavior.
You hear yourself saying, “Why are they like this?” I am planning such a wonderful holiday for them. They are getting everything they want. Why aren’t they happy? Where’s the gratitude? They have so much!”
I encourage you to look a little deeper. Are you giving them something that will be meaningful, even a year from now? Something that will enhance their life? Something that they really want? Are you giving them your self? When is the last time you spent any real, quality time with them?
Do you know that if you slow down and give your children some real present time, that gift will far outlast anything that you can wrap and put under the tree. That is a gift that they will cherish. And you will too.
Sometimes parents forget or do not fully realize just what a gift you are in your children’s life. They want to be with you. To have you pay attention to them.
Parents….. You are the gift to them just as they are to you. Consider this holiday:
What would it be like if you gifted each of your children a gift of your Presence everyday?
It doesn't so much matter what you are doing but rather that you are connecting with them without other distractions. Turn off the TV, cell-phone, and anything else that will take you away from some special time with your child. Maybe it’s taking a walk. Reading together. Playing a game. Decorating cookies. Simply sitting and listening to them. Really listening, without distraction.
Your children simply want to be with you… You are the most important gift that you can give your child this season and everyday from now on.
Perhaps this will be something you will want to bring into the New Year.
A commitment to be Present on a daily basis.
The only cost of being present is your time. When they grow up and come back to visit you for the holidays, I assure you, the memories they share will be about the times that you gave them the gift of your Presence.
YOU ARE THE GIFT!
Wishing you and your family a wondrous holiday season !
Author of Easy Does It, Mom
From Joanna: Please remember, your eating disorder takes you away from the people you love and who love you. Recognize the eating disorder feelings and messages as saboteurs. Let your real self shine forth, even if you need to struggle to clear what dims your light. Your children will see and feel the love light in your eyes, your smile, your touch, your voice, your words and actions. Be the light this Christmas.
Let us know your stories of how you step aside from the eating disorder saboteur and let your authentic self be present for the holiday. Every minute you are present is a gift to everyone.